ON WHOLENESS: Our Deepest Need
By Bill Collier- Innermost wholeness is the deepest need upon which all love and fear are based. For many, inner wholeness is limited to self, some see themselves and their sense of wholeness within a larger sphere, and few have a very large to epic sphere wherein they experience wholeness from within and from among those whom they value as an extension of themselves.
It is good to start with and remain fixed upon personal inner wholeness because as your circle of care grows, you have less and less active control, which, if your inner wholeness is off will make the dissatisfaction and disappointments within outer circles of care more painful than they would otherwise be.
If all you have is this inner wholeness you may have a certain contentment even in hardship, but your impact on the world will be very low which, ironically, can upset your inner wholeness. If you do not have an inner sense of wholeness then as you seek wholeness in the outer circes of care you will both have more frustration and you will need to find ways to control others so they harmonize with what you think brings wholeness to them.
Balance is needed, but understand we can retain our inner wholeness even when it is more difficult to extend to our outer circles of care, but even with that we will experience pain, loss, and sorrow which cannot be avoided.
We can talk about where inner wholeness comes from, including spiritual, mental, and physical needs and the sources of meeting those needs. Likewise for outer circles of care there are similar sources and aspects of wholeness.
If you understand wholeness and that wholeness is deeper even than feelings like pleasure and pain, and can be experienced even in times of pain, then you understand why doing whatever makes you happy (gives you a pleasure sense of “happy”) will not necessarily make you whole, not as God intended.

